Everyday thousands of children are being sexually abused. You can stop the abuse of at least one child by simply praying. You can possibly stop the abuse of thousands of children by forwarding the link in First Time Visitor? by email, Twitter or Facebook to every Christian you know. Save a child or lots of children!!!! Do Something, please!

3:15 PM prayer in brief:
Pray for God to stop 1 child from being molested today.
Pray for God to stop 1 child molestation happening now.
Pray for God to rescue 1 child from sexual slavery.
Pray for God to save 1 girl from genital circumcision.
Pray for God to stop 1 girl from becoming a child-bride.
If you have the faith pray for 100 children rather than one.
Give Thanks. There is more to this prayer here

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Saturday, 28 March 2026

The Islamization of the UK > Spiritual child abuse at Christian school in the UK

 

At One Christian School in England, the Prayers They’re Praying Are Not Exactly Christian


New in PJ Media:

It sounds like some insane Orwellian satire and warning all rolled into one, but it’s actually just another day in shattered, staggering, dhimmi Britain. At one primary school in England, the administrator and teachers saw the writing on the wall and the direction in which Britain is heading, and took action accordingly: they instituted a program to teach their children how to pray as Muslims.

Adding to the dark cloud of cultural suicide that hangs over this entire affair is the fact that the place where this happened, which is unnamed in the news reports about the incident, is identified as a Church of England school. Now, the Church of England is a far-left institution that has long ago left behind most of the core elements of traditional Christianity, but to teach children how to pray after the manner of a rival faith that teaches that Christianity is false and will lead you to hell is taking leftism and apostasy to a whole new level.

The controversy began, according to a Wednesday report in the Telegraph, when a father of one of the children present lodged a complaint. “The father claimed his seven-year-old daughter’s class was shown a video of people kneeling on prayer mats in the direction of Mecca and reciting a prayer to Allah during a religious education lesson last Wednesday, before being told to ‘have a go’ themselves.”

The children duly complied, and this man’s daughter told him about it the following day: “We did prayers to Allah yesterday.” However, the Church of England Diocese of Lincoln, “speaking on behalf of the school, disputed the claims.” A Diocesan Board of Education wonk claimed that it was all perfectly innocent: “During the lesson, which began following the relevant lesson plan, pupils were invited to demonstrate some of the movements associated with Muslim prayer.” Nothing wrong with that, now, is there, you racist, bigoted “Islamophobe”?

The wonk continued: “Although this was outside the lesson’s intended approach, it was not an act of worship – no prayers or religious words were spoken and no child was required to take part. No mats were used and pupils were not asked to face any particular direction.”

Sure. He could also have pointed out that the prayer was all wrong from an Islamic standpoint, as the girls were praying together with the boys, which would never have happened if the children had been in a mosque. In Islamic prayer, the women pray behind the men; if a woman (or a dog, or a donkey) passes in front of a man during prayer, his prayer is invalidated.

There is more. Read the rest here.

Lincolnshire, UK


Sunday, 18 August 2024

Psychological Counselling should be Imperative for Sex Abuse Victims, especially children

 

Most child sex abuse survivors suffer from any number of effects from their abuse for the rest of their lives. In 12 years of blogging in this subject, I have encountered only a very few who completely overcame their trauma. Counselling should be mandatory for all CSA victims until they have overcome their related issues.

As for their abusers, I suspect their problems are spiritual, not psychological.


Treatment for Sexual Abusers and

Sexual Abuse Victims


Society must find a way to treat sexual perpetrators and their victims.



Jeffrey Epstein, a financier and former schoolteacher, was charged with trafficking dozens of girls, some as young as 14. He engaged in sex acts with them in his multiple mansions. It is unknown whether he was sexually abused himself, but in his early 20’s, he cultivated his grooming skills while teaching. He used his wealth and position to abuse hundreds of minors, including hiring minions to deliver his victims.

Epstein never faced those charges in court, dying by suicide in 2019. He was a tragedy to himself and a pariah to countless others.

Some of his victims will repeat what he taught them and become sexual abusers, while others may be able to choose a different path and recover through their lifetimes.

Robin Davis is a successful financier. He was sexually assaulted when he was 10 years old. Following New York’s passage of the Child Victims Act (which allowed lawsuits to be filed regardless of the expiration of the statute of limitations and although all parties were deceased), at age 79, Davis sat in a courtroom to confront the ghost that haunted him for seven decades.

In addition to being a successful financier, he was also a well-known philanthropist. His life’s passion was for fighting child abuse. (New York Times, August 5, 2024).

Recovery can take many forms.

The purpose of this article is to address treatment modalities for childhood sexual abusers and the victims of their abuse. There is a wide range of treatments, some more successful than others.

Child molesters are individuals who have committed a sexual offense against a child victim. Some believe that one important factor in this deviant development is a history of sexual victimization during their own childhood, and emotional and physical abuse as well. All three (childhood sexual abuse, physical and emotional abuse) together increase one’s vulnerability to becoming a perpetrator. The conclusion is not that individuals who have had these experiences become child molesters, only that the probability is increased.

Child sexual abuse is a public health hazard with life-changing consequences. Child abusers hold no status, trust, or faith that they can recover. Thus, successful psychological intervention with individuals who have sexually offended children is critical. Society has a responsibility to try.

What are the psychological interventions used to treat these individuals and to decrease recidivism? Since it is such a complex group of variables in predicting behaviors, the one-size-fits-all approach has been ineffective.

Negative attitudes towards this group lead to punitive treatment such as containment and monitoring (e.g., the sexual offender registry), which has yielded less than positive results in predicting recidivism.

Recidivism is difficult to monitor. The only way to ascertain data is if an individual is caught.

The solely behavioral approach views deviant sexual behavior as a distorted manifestation of sexual desires resulting from conditioned behavior (being sexually abused as a child). The goal of treatment is conditioning treatment—aversive in nature. This approach is again punitive in nature and pays little attention to thought and emotions.

The lack of success of this model led to the treatment more universally used today. It is called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and it addresses the interplay between emotions, behavior, and thoughts.

Cognitive behavioral therapy rests on the idea that problems are based on faulty or unhelpful ways of thinking as well as learned patterns of unhelpful behavior. The premise is that people can learn better ways of coping with mental unease, thus relieving their symptoms.

In addition, a relapse prevention (RP) model to deal with addictive behaviors has been added to CBT. This modality focuses on helping individuals to identify high-risk situations that might cause persons to recidivate. RP helps perpetrators to develop individual strategies to cope with these situations (e.g., staying away from children).

Empirical results are not yet definitive in findings of successful treatment, but efforts continue. The most important factor is a willingness to fully participate in treatment.

Elizabeth Hartney, Ph.D. (January 4, 2024) describes a cycle of abuse that occurs when people who were victimized can become abusive.

She has multiple theories:

  1. A person may reassert their own sense of personal power and grandiosity that compensates for feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. An adult exerts power over a child. (e.g., from 1996 to 2014, Larry Nasser, as team doctor for the United States women's national gymnastics team, used his position to exploit and sexually assault hundreds of young athletes.)
  2. For victims, the abuse may be repeated in adult relationships. If one connects feelings of love with their sexual trauma, there is a disconnect between love and gentleness.
  3. Attachment theory suggests that some victims just avoid adult relationships.
  4. Feelings of shame and anger and what some have described as "dirtiness" can ruin a victim’s life, as they shy away from relationships.
  5. Abused children may believe that they are not good enough to deserve a genuinely caring relationship.

The damage is significant for those sexually abused as children. It has cost or damaged lives not only through suicide but also through a victim’s inability to have adult relationships that are mutual and loving.

Sexual assault for victims results in severe physical and emotional trauma that may affect their adult relationships for a lifetime. Not unlike treatment for offenders their treatment must be individualized.

There are several evidence-based treatments available for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), a mental and behavioral disorder that develops from a traumatic event such as sexual assault. Symptoms may include disturbing thoughts, feelings, or reliving events that occurred.

Medication can serve as an adjunct to the treatments described below.

These treatments include psychodynamic psychotherapy, trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT), and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy (EMDR).

The distinguishing feature of psychodynamic psychotherapy is the focus on the feelings and emotions occurring in therapy sessions. A therapist creates a safe space with non-judgmental emotional support as well as a physically comfortable environment.

The focus of treatment is on the expression of feelings. Victims may experience re-occurring patterns (such as getting into abusive relationships) or reliving the actual experience itself. The concentration in this treatment is on the therapeutic relationship as well as other relationships in the person’s life. This modality is long-term.

The trauma-focused cognitive behavioral treatment approach (TF-CBT) is a briefer, recovery-building model for trauma-impacted children, adolescents, and adults that adapts CBT for healing from trauma.

There are several phases to TF-CBT, including learning relaxation skills to calm a physiological response (such as panic), speaking about the trauma, and education about cognitive skills.

Unlike psychodynamic therapy, this modality is more skills-based, intended to develop a method to manage rapidly changing feelings.

This is not to say the individual is discouraged from talking about their experiences, but the chronicle of events is tied to learning to transfer and manage feelings.

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is another treatment that deals with distress associated with traumatic memories. During this therapy, the therapist will move his or her fingers back and forth in front of the patient’s face so that the patient is able to follow with his or her eyes. Other people may use a metronome or foot or hand tapping. While the patient follows the rhythmic movement, the therapist will ask the patient to recall a traumatizing event. The therapist then asks the patient to gradually leave their negative thoughts. (For example, feelings of vulnerability can be counteracted by saying repeatedly "I am safe, I can choose who to trust, I can trust myself").

The hallmark of EMDR is the regular back and forth of lateral eye movements—called bilateral stimulation— while focusing on the disturbing memory.

Mental health professionals have made in-roads in the treatment of sexual abuse perpetrators and for those trauma victims who have experienced this abuse.

The future holds promise, cautions, and hope.

To find a therapist near you, visit the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.


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Saturday, 17 June 2017

Can a Child Sexual Offender be Cured?

Jane Lee, The Age

In a row of suburban cafes, one shop's windows are covered in grey stickers. You might mistake it for an abandoned takeaway restaurant.

The work that happens behind them is very private. And very important.

Corrections Victoria staff and psychologists who treat sex offenders in the community say that therapeutic treatment can halve the rate of recidivism. Photo: John Donegan

This is Dr Karen Owen's practice. It is here that she treats some of the most damaged and potentially damaging men in the state. Men who have, or who might one day, sexually abuse a child.

Here Owen and her team of six psychologists and sexual health counsellors see a steady stream of clients who struggle daily to battle either a sexual attraction to children or an impulse to abuse them. That they do this largely hidden from public view tells us something about the crime and about ourselves.


Paedophiles make up only a very small minority of the adults who sexually abuse children.
Photo: Dimitri Maruta

Most crimes can be understood, and many can be forgiven. But when it comes to child sex offenders, society tends to turn away in disgust. Some react with anger to those who try to look dispassionately at what is happening. But what if, in refusing to look, we are failing to do everything we can to prevent these crimes?

Conventional wisdom has it that child sex offenders lurk among us until caught, and that they can never be cured. But psychologists around the world who have dedicated their careers to studying and treating sexually abusive behaviours have discovered over decades of research that we are only partly right.

While there is no pill that can cure child sex offenders, there are therapeutic methods that can help prevent them from reoffending. Corrections Victoria staff and psychologists who treat sex offenders in the community say that therapeutic treatment can halve the rate of recidivism.

German researchers from the University of Erlangen conducted a meta-analysis of outcomes from psychological programs for sex offenders around the world. The study, published in the Journal of Experimental Criminology in 2005, found that those who received treatment were about 37 per cent less likely to re-offend than those who received none.

Well, that is much closer to one-third than half, but the point is made that it can have an effect, which, inevitably means fewer children being sexually molested and, perhaps, reduces demand for child porn.


Dr Karen Owen, who treats child sex offenders, calls herself the "ultimate sceptic": "I want to work collaboratively with them but my job is community protection." Photo: Jason South

It also found that the results of the programs had not improved significantly since the 1970s.

One problem with such treatment is that it's difficult to find. If you are an adult who wrestles every day with a sexual attraction to children or some other desire to abuse them, there are few places to get help outside of jail.


About 101 adults who offend against children will participate in prison sex offenders programs each year. Photo: Supplied

Another, is that when we think about child sexual abuse the word that comes to mind is often "paedophile".

In fact, paedophiles make up only a very small minority of the adults who sexually abuse children. A paedophile is defined as someone who is primarily and deviantly sexually attracted to children. They are extremely difficult – some say impossible – to treat.

In fact, pre-pubescent children! Their extremely difficult to treat because their issues are not psychological, but spiritual, even demonic! Such people can be treated, but not by psychologists who don't recognize the reality of demonic possession or influence. 


Offenders are largely left alone with their thoughts and in the full knowledge of the community's hatred for them and their crimes. Photo: Viki Lascaris

Yet most child sex offenders can be drawn to abuse children for a variety of reasons, many of which are not even sexual. They are generally considered more amenable to treatment.

And most adults who abuse children will never reoffend. Even without treatment only a minority – experts estimate between 10 to 25 per cent – go on to do it again. But given the enormous damage this small number are known to cause, reducing this group even further is down to people like Karen Owen.

I have some difficulty with this statement when you consider that 75-80 of sexually abused children are repeatedly abused, and most of them are repeatedly abused by the same person.

Conventional wisdom has it that child sex offenders can never be cured. Photo: Craig Sillitoe

Owen did not set out to work with with child sex offenders. As a nurse who specialised in treating intellectually disabled patients, she wondered: why did so many act out sexually?

It was partly to answer this question that she started studying psychology in the 1980s. In 1993, she was one of two people tasked with turning a pilot program at Pentridge Prison into Victoria's – and Australia's – first sex offender treatment program. (Previously, the only programs available were those available to non-sexual offenders, like anger management and stress reduction.)

She travelled to Canada to learn from Bill Marshall, who helped establish some of the earliest sex offender treatment programs in prisons, and is a prominent advocate for the view that cognitive behavioural therapy can help prevent abuse.

Though she expected to bear witness to some kind of dramatic transformation, the reality of trying to change human behaviour proved much less glamorous. Marshall told her: "'All you need to know is that this bloke knows that you're not going to muck around with him and that he needs to be in the room on Monday. You start unpacking the rest of it from that day on."

The sex offender treatment program Owen went on to establish for Victoria's prisons priorities of treatment for those who pose a higher risk. It is centred on group sessions involving a range of sexual offenders (not just those who abuse children), and focuses on diminishing their ability to manipulate others, improving their relationship skills and reducing feelings of isolation.

Since 2013, the program has focused on helping prisoners build on their strengths and identify the triggers that might lead them to reoffend.

In NSW, the state government runs programs with both prisoners and sex offenders released in the community. A Corrective Services NSW spokeswoman says treatment includes "programs that encourage offenders to acknowledge their sex-offending behaviour and prepare them for more intensive treatment".

Sex offenders assessed to have the greatest risk of reoffending are a priority. One program for high-risk sex offenders, Custody Based Intensive Treatment involves  group-based therapy and targets issues such as sexual behaviour, drug- and alcohol-related offending, anti-social attitudes, coping mechanisms and relationship problems, she says. 

While judges can order lower level offenders to attend treatment programs in the community, prison remains the main avenue by which adult offenders can receive therapeutic treatment in Australia.

This means we rely on prisons to treat such people, but only once they have already abused children.

Psychologists argue we could do more to prevent them committing crimes in the first place. That brings us to another popular misconception: that these men don't want to seek help.

In 2008, Owen left Corrections, partly because the workload of assessing child sex offenders before the courts grew too great. She started her own private practice, expecting most of the work to come from consulting on criminal and family law cases.

Within a week, however, she started getting calls. Some had seen her in prison and tracked her down after release. Others told her they had never abused children but feared they would, and had heard that she could help them.

"One of the misconceptions I had was that men only want to come to treatment once they get caught because they have to," she says."It's just not true. There are men who struggle with these issues, some who have offended, and some who haven't but know they're heading in that direction who genuinely know they don't want to do it and want to seek help."

Germany recognized this at least 12 years ago and began a program there to help pedophiles to keep from physically offending in the first place.

She and her colleagues usually treat their patients fortnightly for about a year. Some patients visit a GP for a referral for anxiety or depression, which allows them to claim a Medicare subsidy for up to 10 psychologist sessions a year. But most – from a range of backgrounds – pay hundreds of dollars a session up front.

While she supports the prison system's continuing focus on group therapy to minimise harm, Owen also sees an important role for individual treatment to tackle the way offenders view themselves and what they have done and create lasting behavioural change.

Most of the clients she sees are not so much deviant as damaged. Many have experienced some form of abuse or neglect in their own childhoods that affects their ability to develop social skills. They often suffer sexual performance problems and lack basic sexual education. As a result, says Owen, they form distorted ways of viewing relationships, women and sex, which, once deeply embedded in their minds, are easily used to justify their abuse of children.

Only a minority meet the clinical diagnosis for paedophilia; Owen estimates about 40 per cent of her practice's clients have an intellectual disability. Often, she says, "They're trying to achieve intimacy or avoid feelings of loneliness."

These distortions can develop at an early age following exposure to abuse in their own families, or over a long period of time, to be cemented when they become isolated in later life.

This is very much how Natascha Kampusch describes her abductor and rapist for 8.5 years. 

One of her former patients initially believed he was helping the children he met online, in teaching them about sex and protecting them from further harm.

Owen helps her patients unpack the reasons for these distortions, undo them and, most importantly, to take responsibility for them. Together they develop strategies for healthy sexual relationships, to avoid situations where they risk abusing children and develop empathy for their victims.

She helped the patient who saw himself as a "saviour" realise that he was actually trying to groom under-age children for his own sexual pleasure.

It turned out he was not exclusively attracted to children. But his intense fears of intimacy drove him to them, as there was less chance they would reject him than other adults.

This does not mean that therapeutic treatment works every time.

Owen calls herself the "ultimate sceptic": she does not pretend her job is easy. One of the first times she assessed an offender's risk of reoffending, she says her inexperience led a man became so aroused describing his own crimes that he ejaculated on the other side of the table from her. Patients also try to intimidate her to avoid confronting their personal issues.

"I want to work collaboratively with them but my job is community protection," Owen says. "So if I think they're a risk to themselves or others everyone's going to know it."

Since 2011, a Victorian state inquiry and a royal commission have exposed how major institutions have responded to historic child sexual abuse.

The County Court  - which deals with most of  Victoria's child sexual abuse cases - is bracing itself for greater numbers of cases following the state inquiry and royal commission into child abuse. However in recent years the number that have been resolved by the court have fluctuated across different crimes - though cases of sexual penetration of a 16 or 17 year-old, jumped from 20 in 2014/15 to 36 in 2015/16.

Generally, only those who are sentenced to more than 18 months' jail can hope to secure a place in prison treatment programs in Victoria. Corrections Victoria says they assess on a case by case basis but they believe that treatment for less than 18 months is ineffective.

About 101 adults who offend against children will participate in prison sex offenders programs each year.

Given there are only a handful of private therapists in Victoria who, like Owen, specialise in treating child sex offenders, most offenders rely on Corrections to support them after they are released, either by supervising them or referring them for treatment to public mental health service Forensicare. Very few who struggle with these issues refer themselves there.

Some offenders are able to nominate support people, who Corrections trains to look out for signs they may re-offend. But Owen says this assumed child sex offenders had friends and relatives in the community willing to do this: "It's only good so long as people give a shit about you and not many of them do."

It takes a certain type of person to take on this demanding task. Andrew*, who has been involved in prison fellowships for most of his life, is that type of person. Not much fazes the soft-spoken, white-haired man. He started screening movies for prisoners as a teenager, and went on to organise visitors for those who had none of their own.

He runs a weekly support group for child sex offenders in the community, but will not publicly reveal the place they meet weekly to talk and pray.

Andrew does not think there is a permanent cure for child sex offenders. "Some can resist it, but when a damaged person still longs for intimacy and can only find it where they have total power, that's the direction they will go in."

"The longing for intimacy is such a powerful thing in all humanity and it can be such a blessing or (a curse)."

The answer, he says, is to create a community for them to live in. "Often it's not just a fact of whether we accept people. It's whether they can really comprehend they are accepted, they can see it, feel it and know they have friends."

Many Christians struggle with the same issue in their relationship with God. In spite of all that Jesus Christ has done for us, we still sometimes feel like we have to earn His acceptance.

Owen says dangers lie in the absence of such a community. Offenders may serve lengthy sentences, but most are ultimately released. While some may be supervised closely in the community, most have no personal support.

So offenders are largely left alone with their thoughts and in the full knowledge of the community's hatred for them and their crimes.

"You can do offence-specific treatment all your life ... but if they don't believe that they're worth being on the planet then they're not going to implement the strategies," she says.

Owen also says a move in recent years towards greater monitoring of sex offenders in the community also provides a "false sense of security" and often has little impact on the likelihood they will abuse again.

"One of the risks we run is that we rely on the monitoring to do what treatment could have much more effectively done if we had even more resources."

Could we do more to keep the community safe from the risk of child sexual abuse?

Professor Doug Boer, the past president of the International Association for the Treatment of Sex Offenders, offers no easy answers.

Boer, who treats adolescents and works with prison programs in Canberra, believes that our ability to significantly improve the way we support offenders is limited, in many ways, by stigma around child abuse.

It is difficult, he says, to assess whether prison treatment programs are truly effective because they are always voluntary and affected by "selection bias". While Corrections argues most offenders participate because they are motivated by the prospect of being released early on parole, Boer says there is no way of knowing how many have declined treatment who could have benefited from it.

One alternative, he offers, would be to make the sex offender treatment program compulsory in prisons, though this approach "requires a bit of back-bone" because it would require us to provide treatment to all offenders, while accepting that some may still go on to reoffend.

And limited political appetite exists to devote more resources to helping offenders and those at risk of becoming offenders particularly when the outcomes remain unclear.

"My argument would be that our society is hung up on statistical significance ... But I suspect if one less child was victimised, society would think it was worth it."

Society has little idea how many children are being victimized, and if they did know, they would not be impressed by one child in a million being spared abuse. Doing some quick math I determined that about 15,000 children per year are sexually abused in Victoria. Considering what psychologists charge for their services, one would like to see a much better return on that investment. Perhaps a comprehensive study is needed to determine approximately how many children were spared by psychological intervention.

with Michaela Whitbourn



Sunday, 13 November 2016

Great New Program to Educate Adults to Reduce Child Sex Abuse

Prevent It! program aims to reduce child sexual abuse
Mark Woollven, INews 880

    Prevent It! program aims to reduce child sexual abuse

The University of Alberta, working with the Little Warriors, have developed a program aimed at averting child sexual abuse.  It’s simply called, Prevent it!

Dr. Peter Silverstone developed the program, he’s a Professor of Psychiatry at the U of A and he says that it’s designed to give parents and people who work with children the information they need to make a tangible difference.  He adds the effects of child sexual abuse can be devastating.

“In the vast majority of cases children never disclose this until much later when they’re much older and it often leads to quite significant psychological damage, so addressing it is really important.”

The destruction of innocence
The violation of the sacred

He says there’s a lot that we don’t understand about why someone abuses children.

That is because you have a purely scientific approach. Pedophilia has elements of spirituality which science refuses to recognize. It has much to do with the destruction of innocence, the violation of the sacred. 

“What we do know is the impact that child sexual abuse has on those who suffer from it, and our goal is to try and minimize that, and there are ways we can do that.  One is to speak to children early and see if something is happening, the other is to increase their awareness.”

Dr. Silverstone says when it comes to building on awareness it’s things like grooming techniques that Prevent It! will teach attendees to help kids look out for.

Quite a bit of research went into the development of Prevent It!, and Dr. Silverstone lays out the questions that guided his study.

“Are there structures we can do that have a meaningful impact that change behaviors and allow the risk to go down and early identification to go up?  So, that’s what we studied and we were very gratified, the research was, really, extremely successful in this area.”

The Prevent It! workshops are free to attend, though donations are gratefully accepted.  You can get all the information about the program and how to book a seat by clicking right here.

This is very exciting. I have been contemplating methods of getting this information out to more and more people, and this looks like a very useful tool. I will attempt to facilitate a seminar locally and report back on it, probably early next year.

Please consider doing the same. Pray about it, please, and pray this program becomes very successful. 
Sexually abused children need a voice, help them to find it!