Great Resources For Domestic Abuse Survivors

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Safe Moves: Tips For Domestic Abuse Survivors

Guest article by Nora Hood

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Every day in America, millions of people suffer in abusive relationships within their own homes. Both men and women battle physical, mental, and emotional abuse, some with violent outcomes, and many of them have children who are caught in the middle. What’s worse is that children are also oftentimes victims of sexual or other physical abuse, making it even more critical for parents to remove themselves and their little ones out of harm’s way.

If you are in an abusive situation, it’s important to know that you are not alone and that while taking steps to get away safely may be scary at first, it will ultimately help you start a new life in which you are in control. Having a plan in place is essential, of course. If you are worried about your partner becoming violent with you or your children upon learning that you want to leave, it’s important to keep your decision to yourself until the very last minute. Pinpoint one person you know you can trust who can help you pack and remove your belongings from the home quickly and safely.

Keep reading for more tips on how to stay safe when leaving an abusive situation from

Northwoods Save a Child.

Create a plan

Starting with a detailed plan is essential. Before you start looking for a place to live, you need to figure out how you will get away safely, especially if you have kids. Figure out the logistics of leaving: how long will it take to get your belongings out of the home? What will you do if your partner discovers that you’re leaving? How much money will you need in the first week and month? Think about the details so you can create a backup plan just in case.

Talk to your children

If you have children, it’s imperative that you talk to them about the plan ahead of time, as long as they are old enough to understand. Formulate a plan of action and go over it several times to make sure everyone is on the same page. Do they know where to go after school on the day you’re leaving? Who will pick them up? If they’ll be with you, what will they do if an argument between you and your partner escalates? It can be difficult to talk about these things with little ones, but making sure they know how to react is essential.

Look for a place to go

If you have the means to buy or rent a home, you’ll need to begin the process of looking for the best place weeks or months in advance. Know how much you have for your rental or purchase budget, then consider factors like a property’s price, location, size, and proximity to your loved ones and child’s school. If you’re worried about your partner following you or finding out where you live, look for a place that has a clear entry/exit and isn’t isolated. Having neighbors close by is also a good thing.

Know your rights

Survivors of domestic abuse have certain rights that vary from state to state, including those regarding custody of children, workplace environments, and housing. Do some research online to get familiar with the laws in your area, and if possible, document the abuse you’ve suffered. Talk to a counselor or therapist who can back you up in court if necessary. Not only will this help should legal issues arise, it will also help your state of mind to be able to talk to someone about everything you’ve been through.

Getting safely away from an abuser is never easy; it takes an inner strength and courage that many people don’t even think they have. The important thing to remember is that you are strong, and that taking these steps now will help you create a better life for you and your family.

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Here are some more resources from Nora that you might find very helpful:

15 Signs Of Domestic Violence That Aren’t Physical

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2017/10/173685/types-of-abuse-in-a-relationship

How to Exit an Abusive Relationship Safely

https://www.verywellmind.com/making-a-safety-plan-to-escape-abusive-relationship-5069959

Homebuying Guide For Victims Of Domestic Violence

https://www.mortgagecalculator.org/helpful-advice/domestic-violence-victims.php

Domestic Violence and PTSD

https://blackbearrehab.com/mental-health/ptsd/domestic-violence-and-ptsd/

How to Heal From Emotional Abuse in Relationships: Therapist Approved Strategies

https://mindwellnyc.com/how-to-heal-from-emotional-abuse-in-relationships/

Helping Children Cope After a Traumatic Event

https://childmind.org/guide/helping-children-cope-traumatic-event/

Thank you,

Nora Hood

Threedaily.org

nora@threedaily.org