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This story was presented on Pakistani TV and poorly translated into English.
Nevertheless, it is worth the effort to read.
Child Abuse: More Horrible than a Person Could Imagine
By Mussab Tariq, Baaghitv
Sep 24, 2021, 11:20 Am
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Pakistan is confronted with an expanding threat of youngster misuse and a greater part of cases in the nation go unreported. The nation has a few laws to ensure kids yet specialists say that with helpless execution and low conviction rate, youngster misuse has turned into an industrious issue.
The NGO Sahil in its yearly report expressed that there has been a 4 percent expansion in archived instances of significant wrongdoings against kids (2,960 instances of kid sexual abuse, seizing, missing youngsters, and child marriages) in 2020 from the earlier year. To place this consider along with the point of view, this implies that somewhere around eight kids were manhandled every day last year.
The report expressed that the information shows that 80 kids were killed after sexual abuse in 2020 out of the all-out revealed instances of 2,960. The number of homicide cases after sexual maltreatment was 70 every 2019.
The culprits of this intolerable wrongdoing either undermine youngsters with critical outcomes or bait them through warmth, cash, or confections and a significant number of these kids keep on languishing maltreatment over years.
A few child abuse cases including the assault and murder of 7-year-old Zainab Ansari in Kasur, and assault and murder of a 5-year-old young lady in Mardan, Khyber Pakhtunkhwa region, and the assault of a 6-year-old young lady in Sukkur, Sindh region have sent a shockwave among individuals.
An investigation of the information uncovers that in 2020 alone, out of the all-out revealed cases, 985 cases were accounted for of homosexuality, 787 cases were assault, 89 cases were porn and child sexual abuse, and 80 cases were accounted for of homicide after kid sexual maltreatment, though 834 cases were accounted for of kidnapping, reported The Express Tribune.
Sexual maltreatment against young men is considerably more typical than individuals think, as per Developmental Psychologist at the Aga Khan University Waliyah Mughis.
“Both, female and male casualties can battle to be accepted by others yet the no-no encompassing male youngster casualties might be significantly higher. Notwithstanding sex, the hurtful impacts of sexual savagery are simply something very similar for guys and females: blame, self-fault, outrage, dread, disarray, doubt, trouble at school and work, trouble shaping and keeping up with confiding seeing someone, expanded danger of substance abuse and self-hurt,” she noted.
On other hand, Child Protection Bureau Chairperson Sarah Ahmed focused on the requirement for additional endeavors to forestall sexual and physical abuse of kids.
“The Government is finding a way substantial ways to check sexual brutality against kids. Notwithstanding, the ascent in child sexual abuse over the course of the years is disturbing,” she added, focusing on the need to make mindfulness about the reasons for sexual abuse of kids and measures to forestall it.
“Stricter laws are being presented for culprits of sexual savagery against youngsters and ladies,” Ahmed said.
Experts say the public authority ought to improve and give really preparation and assets to guarantee that the police, specialists, court authorities, social laborers, and youngster government assistance specialists react appropriately to claims of kid sexual maltreatment. Pakistan’s youngsters merit protected adolescence.
The merciless and abhorrent hijacking, assault, and murder of Zainab set off banter in Pakistan about whether to show kids how to prepare for sex misuse and in its battle to guarantee the assurance of kids, the public authority sanctioned the Zainab Alert Response and Recovery Act, 2020. The public authority additionally settled the Zainab Alert Response and Recovery Agency for missing and snatched kids.
Be that as it may, activists keep up with this will not end the youngster misuse cases as kids are should have been given information on the issue. Proceeded with correspondence among kids and guardians is important to support a kid’s certainty. Specialists say this will urge kids to express their real thoughts if there should be an occurrence of any sort of approach.
Eyewitnesses say that much can be as yet accomplished for the assurance of youngsters and in such manner proposals incorporate kid cordial courts, unique work areas at police headquarters, and mindfulness for kids and guardians.
Children need to be taught what is safe-touch and unsafe-touch, plus who to tell and how to tell in schools and madrassas. This gives the voiceless a voice. They also need child-friendly courts that will not force a small child to testify in front of the pervert who attacked and threatened them.
The Rape Culture is alive and well in Canadian Universities, and I expect all other western universities as well.
I was raped at university. Here's why I never reported it
The assault was my fault, according to the system that should have protected me
Meghan Simard ·
For CBC First Person ·
Posted: Sep 25, 2021 10:00 AM ET
Meghan Simard writes she tried to report her sexual assault but was thwarted at every turn by a system that didn’t believe her. (Hailley Furkalo/CBC)
Warning: This First Person column contains graphic content and may be triggering for those who have experienced sexual violence or know someone affected by it. It is written by Meghan Simard who lives in Toronto. For more information about CBC's First Person stories, please see the FAQ.
Back to school is a hard time for me every year. It aligns with the anniversary of my rape at university in 2014. This anniversary was made even harder by the news coming out of Western University.
Police are investigating four reported sexual assaults since school began this month. On TikTok and other social media platforms, there have been allegations of more sexual assaults. It might be tempting to look at this as a Western problem, or a class of 2021 problem. It's not.
Every year, approximately 600,000 sexual assaults occur in Canada. An estimated five per cent of sexual assaults against people 15 or older were reported to police. This makes sexual assault the violent crime least likely to be reported to police. I am one of the 95 percent who does not have an official report of my sexual assault — but not for lack of trying.
I was raped in my third year of university by a so-called friend. I had turned down his sexual advances earlier in the week, but agreed to watch a movie with him and two other people. When I arrived at his house for the movie, the other people were nowhere to be found. I told him twice I didn't want to have sex. I tried to leave. I removed his hands from my breasts and genitals four times. I still remember the moment when I realized what was going to happen, whether I wanted it or not.
Distraught, I turned to institutions that should have protected me for support. I received next to none.
I went to Kingston General Hospital to have a rape kit done. At the request of the nurses, I recited my story at least twice but no one wrote anything down. I surrendered my jeans and underwear. I expect they have since been destroyed to make room for clothing from more recent rapes.
I spread my legs for an internal swab and was told after the fact that DNA evidence would be useless in a 'he said, she said'. He wouldn't deny that he was in me, but would just say it was consensual. I wanted to report my rape then and there, along with the rape kit. The nurse said I would have to make a report to the police. I could not report it at the hospital.
I went to the Queen's University Human Rights and Equity Office to speak with the school's sexual harassment prevention co-ordinator. She asked me to explain what had happened. Again, I recited my story — this time with many interruptions and incredulous outcries from the co-ordinator.
At one point, she interrupted me to ask for more detail about the sexual positions in which I was raped. Despite demanding every sordid detail, she didn't take any notes. When I'd finished, she asked what I would like to see happen. I said I would like to see him expelled, or at least suspended until I graduate.
The response was another incredulous outcry: "He has rights too, you know!"
That same academic year, one of my friends was not at school because his grades were not sufficient to stay in his program. Apparently, you can be suspended for poor grades but not for raping another student.
My trauma isn’t limited to the rape itself, writes Meghan Simard. It extends to my denied attempts to report my assault and from my denied attempts to seek justice. (Meghan Simard)
The co-ordinator tried to dissuade me from making a report with campus security or local police, but eventually agreed to set up a meeting with a detective from Kingston Police.
I met with the detective a few days later on campus. She asked me to recite my story again. Again, no one wrote anything down. Face wet with defiant tears, I asked the detective what my chances of a conviction were. She said none. Then she proceeded to tell me why:
Because it was he said, she said.
Because I didn't leave when I started to feel unsafe.
Because it took me four days to realize what had happened.
Because I didn't scream.
Because I had slept with him before in the previous school year.
Because I stayed the night and left in the morning.
All of the reasons she provided laid the blame at my feet. I had failed to be the "perfect rape victim," and so I had no chances of securing a conviction.
She then offered some advice. She said I am too nice and need to learn to teach people how I want to be treated. She then said that if I really wanted to make a report (I have a faint memory of this being accompanied by a labored sigh) that I would have to go to the police station where they would take my statement, and then close the file without an investigation. I could not make a statement from campus or my student house. I didn't even know where the police station was — nor did she offer to tell me.
I left these meetings with a hatred for myself I did not know was possible. I thought to myself that if I could just take responsibility for my actions, for my failure to stand up for myself, for my meekness and weakness, that I could accept it was my fault and move on.
According to Statistics Canada, 71 per cent of post-secondary students have experienced or witnessed unwanted sexualized behaviour in a post-secondary setting in 2019. (Kate Dubinski/CBC News)
The meetings with the human rights office and the Kingston Police were more traumatizing than the rape itself.
I'm not saying that to diminish the trauma rape inflicts, because the assault caused immeasurable harm all on its own. But being failed by one person is more manageable than being failed by system after system.
The rest of my school year was more or less a garbage fire. Attending university classes with newly developed, untreated, and severe PTSD is hard enough, but I also had to see my rapist regularly on and around campus. I am indebted to my friends who held my hands through panic attacks and to my family who picked up the phone in the middle of the night when all I wanted to do was die.
The summer following the assault, I was back home, living with my family — away from my rapist and the place I was raped. I'd achieved some form of stability and calm for the first time in eight months. I thought that perhaps here, in my hometown, while I felt safe(r) I could report the crime. I even had a constable in mind, one I trusted and had known since childhood. I mentioned this to a social worker I was seeing at the time.
She said that she thought I would have to report the assault to Kingston Police, that my local police wouldn't take the report since it had not happened in their jurisdiction.
By this point, I had been defeated so many times. It was not worth the effort or the disappointment to find out for certain if I could report locally. All it took was one hint of discouragement to scare me off.
I was raped and never reported it. Our systems are an obstacle course that keeps us from reporting. My trauma isn't limited to the rape itself, but extends to my denied attempts to report my assault and from my denied attempts to seek justice.
I am in some ways heartened to see a media, police, and institutional response, however insufficient, to the reports of sexual assault at Western. For far too long, survivors have been silenced and disbelieved. To see news coverage and student walkouts over these assaults is a welcome change.
To my fellow survivors, I see you. I hear you. I believe you. Your assault is valid even if you never reported it.
If you are a victim of sexual violence, reach out to your provincial hotline.
Editor's note: CBC News contacted the Kingston Police, which did not provide a response to questions about Meghan Simard's experience by the time of publication. It was one of many police forces across Canada that decided to review sexual assault cases after a Globe and Mail investigation revealed that one in five sexual assault cases across Canada was classified as unfounded, meaning the investigator didn't believe an offence occurred or was attempted.
The Kingston General Hospital said it could not provide information on Simard's experience due to provincial privacy laws.
Queen's University declined to comment on the specifics of Simard's case. The school hired an outside consulting firm to investigate complaints against the co-ordinator at the human rights office. There was no finding of impropriety by the staff member, the university confirmed to CBC in an email. A spokesperson said the school has developed a policy on sexual violence involving students.
‘Beast of Bangor’ paedophile Gary McNeill dies suddenly after jail release
Ciaran Barnes
September 26 2021 07:00 AM
Belfast Telegraph
A notorious paedophile jailed for abusing a four-year-old girl has died suddenly after being freed from prison.
Former pals say the one time North Down UDA drug dealer, who was aged in his 30s, was struggling to come to terms with being known as a child sex predator.
“McNeill couldn’t come back to Bangor — loyalists would have lynched him if he tried — and he found that hard,” a former friend told Sunday Life.
“Before his conviction he strutted about the Rathgill estate in the town acting the big man, but all that disappeared when he was convicted of abusing that wee girl who was only at nursery school when he attacked her.”
McNeill pleaded guilty to a single charge of sexual assault on his young victim at Belfast Crown Court in January 2020. He was freed from prison earlier this year with his reputation in ruins and without a friend. Members of his family also turned their back on him.
Hold on: He raped a 4-year-old girl and spent little more than a year in prison for it? How insane is that?
Loyalists sources in Bangor were dismissive of his death, saying: “He won’t be missed.”
The sex attack McNeill was convicted of occurred in August 2019 while he was in the company of the little girl. She later complained to a family member of feeling sore when using the toilet. This alarmed her relative who immediately contacted the PSNI. Medical examinations of the child found she had been the victim of sexual abuse.
McNeill, who was living at a flat on Rathgill Avenue in Bangor at the time, was arrested and charged. He initially denied any wrongdoing following a court appearance in Newtownards, but later changed his plea to guilty.
After confessing to being a paedophile McNeill was warned by police that he was under threat from loyalist paramilitaries.
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